The picture above was taken in august of 2009. I m smiling and happy because I finally got hope and I m also drunk 🙂 Most of that year was smiling and full of good vibes. It was the year of personal growth. I will forever cherish that year because it was the new beginning for me.
This is my story.
It was spring of 2009. In October I had been finally released from the military service, my adult life had started. I got a job as security guard. I had some stability, I had some money, I had a friend.
My life had been getting slowly better, I was not the same depressed 19 years old, I felt like I had grown.
One thing was missing from my life: romance and sex.
When I was a teenager I thought this problem will get solved by itself, that’s what I was told.You study hard, get a job, be a good boy and women will come don’t worry.
I was 21 and I still sucked in this department. I just didn’t understand women and how they worked. Some guys have it and I just didn’t.
I was single and had only 1 awkward sexual experience. I envied other guys who had girlfriends or guys who were out with girls in bars.
I felt betrayed and I was angry. I was a good guy, good guys are supposed to finish first?
I got heartbroken over a girl in march that wasn’t interested in seeing me anymore after we went on 2 dates. I was extremely needy and it turned the girl off.I was depressed and feeling very low.
One night I was so down that I got drunk on vodka at my home. My friend called me and said he was in the neighborhood.
We chilled at my yard at night. I told him about my nonexistent love life problem. He told me that he had a material that could help me. I was very skeptical, how can some material help me? I need plastic surgery or huge muscles to attract women, not material. Is he pulling my chain?
I was desperate so I was open to anything. If you ever have been desperate then you know what I m talking about.
Next day he gave me a copy of an ebook he had just bought, it was called “Attraction is not a choice” by David DeAngelo. I was like ok dude an ebook will probably change my dating life. I still read it because what other choices I had?
Immediately started to read it on my computer screen. I can’t believe I was reading an ebook at night on how to attract women. I was thirsty for knowledge. When reading the book I felt like I was stumbled on a holy grail.
I got so pumped up that I bought David Angelos other book called “Double your dating“. I loved this book, even more, I was blown away. Books were entertaining, funny and educational.
I haven’t had so much fun reading a book since I read “The Dirt” by Neil Strauss.
I felt this inner change, my mindset changed instantly. All my life I thought I was this creep who didn’t stand a chance in love life now I was actually given tools to make changes and become that guy! I felt like a brand new man.
I immediately implemented the changes and started behaving differently.I was more social and had more confidence than ever before. My friend noticed this. Like David DeAngelo taught I was cocky and funny without much effort, I learned fast.
Girls actually started responding better, I felt hopeful, I stood a chance. I actually could change my dating life.
I was hungry for more knowledge. I started researching about dating experts and stumbled on a thing called Pua= pickup artist. At first, I thought it was bullshit like many people do,but having personal success with David De Angelo I was open to finding out more about this subject.
I stumbled on a guy called Mystery (Erik Von Markovik) who was this magician who was the godfather of whole pua scene. He was the main character in Neil Strauss life changing book “The Game“. Mystery has a great book called How to get beautiful women into bed, I read it in November of 2009.
The most interesting character was guy called Tyler Durden real name Owen Cook. I decided to get to know him better. He was the bad guy in “The Game” which I read 2 months later. That book is still my favorite after all these years.
Tyler Durden runs a company called Real Social Dynamics. Back then it wasn’t this big company it is today. They only did boot camps and had 4 programs out.
I got their first program by Tyler called The Foundations.
I watched it over and over. It was the best video I have ever seen at that point. My mind got shocked even more. To this day it’s still the best dating program for newbies. It’s fun, entertaining and educational. At the end of it, when Tyler gave his speech I had tears in my eyes.
Tyler Durden was/is my hero. I immediately got his program Blueprint Decoded. This was what I have been searching for my whole life.
It wasn’t even a dating program it was an 8-hour seminar on life, self-esteem, value, humanity, attitude. It took me days to watch it completely.
It took me time to adjust my brain to all the changes that happened in my reality. After I watched I felt like I saw something that 99 % people don’t know about. It was like a cult and I was now part of it.
The program delves so deep in our existence, it was just mind blowing. If you are reading this Tyler: dude you changed my life forever, thank you!
I was a new man. I was positive and I had hope for my life.
After that Immediately got Jeffy show which was inspirational. Jeff is one of a kind guy. He is my favorite instructor after Tyler. His program is like a stand-up comedy set that is at the same time inspiring, emotional and motivational.
Jeffy takes into his world. I loved it. Later he wrote a book called Nine Ball about his experiences. Jeffy if you are reading this: thank you!
In 2012 my dreams came true and RSD came to my town. I saw them in 2013 twice, in 2014 twice and last year once. I have met so many cool guys on those events that became my buddies.
Enough of praising you wanna know what changed in my own life?
That summer I got my first one night stand, a girl I met at the bar, we had so much fun. I still remember her name: Sanna. Oh, those memories.
That summer I got so many friends. I studied so hard about how to be a cooler. I learned how to give value. I was attracting more people into my life.
Things were looking much better, I was happy to be alive.
In January of 2010, I got my first girlfriend without any effort. I was used to chasing girls approval all my life, getting rejected left and right. Now I was dating a girl that wanted to be with me, just for me.
Our relationship went sour 4 months later and we broke up but it’s okay, I finally got to know what’s dating like.
The year of 2009 was the best year of my life. What’s funny that next Year 2010 was the worst because my partying went too far and I fucked it up big time. That will be another whole chapter someday.
Over the years I kept following Real Social Dynamics. I went to their events in Helsinki and bought their programs. Tyler became my mentor.
I was learning bit by bit. My personality grew and my sex life was getting better. I got more interesting and good friends. It has been an awesome ride that will continue.
I never thought that I will get to live a life as a guy who attracted girls but I did it. Of course, it wasn’t easy, I had to make a lot of changes to myself.
To this day I m still learning and becoming a little bit better. I studied material of years, hammering new belief systems into my head time after time.
Rereading books and watching programs all over again.
Some people have laughed at me when I told them about this thing. If they only had seen me before I stumbled onto this.
I always go back to 2009, I get so nostalgic about it. I was a young kid who stumbled onto something that changed my life. I m grateful forever that I got this chance, without I would not have been the same person.
I value the things I learned and I strive to get better as a person and in life . I hope there is some guy reading this and maybe gets inspired like I got when I was 21 and decides delve into this. I feel very emotional after writing this in one sitting, gotta go drink some tea.
I used to listen to this song all the time in summer of 2009, great old school party song 🙂